This scene from the movie Dances with Wolves: Just before John Dunbar’s marriage to Stands with a Fist, he shares a meaningful conversation with Wind in His Hair who was the best friend of Stands with a Fist’s late husband. Wind in His Hair mentions that he didn’t like Dunbar when they first met and confesses his own anger issues. This honest admission indicates self-awareness.
He believes that his best friend’s death was part of a greater destiny that allowed Dunbar to become part of their lives. This perspective shows a beautiful surrender to faith, accepting that some things are beyond our control.
Isn’t it beautiful? Isn’t it faith stepping into the darkness and accepting that some things are determined for us, even if we have no control over them? Wind in His Hair accepts his anger as part of who he is. By being aware of his shortcomings, he doesn’t resist them but acknowledges them openly. This acceptance doesn’t signify weakness but rather strength in recognizing and embracing his true self.
Through this acceptance, he finds closure over his best friend’s death. He understands that his friend’s passing paved the way for John Dunbar’s arrival, and this realization allows him to move forward with peace in his heart.